A devotional for dating or engaged couples
Yet many times in our marriage I have felt the distinct urge to wash the dishes for her. Jesus created an impulse within my heart to love Ashley in this way.On other occasions, Christ has prompted me to spontaneously clean Ashley’s car, compliment her, or stop what I was doing and hold her after she had had a bad day.Therefore, He can help us love one another more deeply.Jesus can love Ashley by desiring to do so through me, sometimes without her having to say anything.But people who aren’t Christians can’t understand these truths from God’s Spirit.… However, you can only discern His counsel when you are willing to listen and yield to Him.To Jesus, romantic passion is the wrong foundation for a marriage.He wants you to give your heart to someone on the basis of character and passionate sacrificial love. This question pertains to the most important aspect of your relationship—the spiritual.To help you assess if your relationship contains these elements, consider the following eight questions before you get engaged. If you or your date does not know Jesus as the primary Source of love, then you will try to manipulate love from one another.
Fortunately, as I dressed in my tuxedo, God reminded me that I had every good reason to marry Ashley and that He would uphold our marriage.They may have only dated for a few months, but their blissful feelings convince them that they are destined for each other.By contrast, other couples date for years but never find the courage to make a commitment.This kind of supernatural love creates a bond stronger than that of any non-Christian married couple.Let me clarify that our marriage bond in Christ does not give Ashley and me some sort of spiritual voodoo. Yet as we respond to the desires that Jesus puts within our hearts, He leads us to love one another in the best manner. Joined together in Christ, Ashley and I share the same wish to glorify God, the same joys and sorrows, and the same Source of love—we are one (Ephesians -32).I entered the church that evening with God’s peace inspiring my steps.If you are dating someone seriously, how peaceful do you feel when you think about marrying that person?Many Christian singles make this mistake in dating and short-change themselves. As Christians, Ashley and I are united in Jesus Christ.This means that the same Jesus who lives within me also lives within Ashley.When I have acted upon those urges, Ashley has often exclaimed, “How did you know what I needed?I never hinted or asked you to do those things.” I knew what Ashley needed because Christ motivated me.