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Recently some friends and I were discussing sex, and one of the guys piped in and said that the reason we (the other guys) didn't have girlfriends is because we don't have sex.
After a lot of discussion we could find no holes in his theory; it seemed like he was entirely right.
Most, like you, are waiting for marriage; we hear from them at Boundless all the time, and they share many of your frustrations.
And third, having sex outside of marriage is no guarantee you will "keep" a girlfriend — in fact, it often spells disaster for the relationship, given enough time.
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Alone-ness is not solved by sex; it's solved by the lifelong commitment found in marriage.
God didn't say, "It is not good that the man is a virgin." Virginity doesn't threaten relationships.
Remember that we are the largest free online dating service, so you will never have to pay a dime to meet your soulmate. It's a damn good question..I have absolutely no freaking clue how long, oh wait..distance relationship with my last ex..6 months...(holy crap I have a problem) I wonder if he knew I was playing with myself while we talked on the phone..ol' christian boyyyyyyyyyy! Or me I geuss I should say..having sex in a relationship 3x a day everyday of the week takes away from the other parts of a good relationship.It's counterfeit "marriage" and a train wreck waiting to happen.Feeding this problem is what I call passive dating — growing more intimate with someone without really any ultimate purpose other than having fun, with no in the relationship.He's a psych major which lends even more credibility to his statements, but basically he said that because we don't have sex with a girl when our relationships have reached that stage we cannot keep her and that God designed male/female relationships to take a certain course of action in a certain sequence and that it is very hard to frustrate that course of action and not have a breakup.He say that we could slow down the whole process and take each step with the girl very slowly to not reach the point-of-no-return, but I don't know.I can't tell you how dangerous it is to continue growing intimate in a relationship that has no ultimate purpose beyond "fun" or "personal pleasure." Those are great things, but they are by-products of a great relationship, not at all strong enough to be its ultimate purpose.Sex can't sustain a relationship, even a marriage relationship. More often than not, these women you refer to are not after the sex. They are hoping that the sex will help get them there or at least prolong the quasi-commitment they now have.Also, I don't know even one Christian leader who waited for marriage for sex.They all tell us to, but they didn't wait, so how can they tell us to do something they didn't do and think that the outcomes will be so great? I've chosen to wait, and I probably will until I get married, but all these points are very valid, and many of the Christian men I know are becoming increasingly frustrated with either the system itself or the fact that many Christian women will have sex with non-Christians while the Christian men are "waiting" for them. As you also might suspect, he's missing the glaring problem.If it is made the point, it will fail over and over and over. Typically, a relationship follows the natural progression of ever-growing intimacy until it reaches the point of, not sex, but — lifelong commitment.When people don't want to commit for a lifetime, but also don't want the relationship to end, they enter that hazy, thorny middle ground of sexual intimacy without lifelong commitment, hoping to prolong what they have — not by marriage and lifelong commitment, which is God's design — but by jumping to sex and maybe living together.