How to communicate with your parents about dating
Somehow you’ve just been placed in the middle of the whole mess!
Touch is so powerful an emotional tool that the Torah has placed special stress on where and how it can be used.This has to do with your honesty, with how much you believe in what you are saying, and with the degree to which you are prepared to back up your words.The most eloquent words will be ineffectual if the child senses that you are not really ready to stand behind your words and enforce them or that you do not really believe in what you are saying.They seem to be able to listen and "get it" when their friends talk! I asked him if this had helped when he, the parent, had been a child, and he said that it hadn't. Because they are more emotional than adults, children react more readily to nonverbal messages.He also admitted that this approach wasn't working with his child either. This does not mean that we shouldn't speak to our children.In either case, your words will be flouted with impunity; worse, you will be considered a hypocrite in the child's eyes.Rav Moshe Feinstein, zt"l, explained that we must be sincere and be true models of what we want our children to be based on God’s demand that we be a holy nation since He is holy.The emotions and the character of the speaker are powerful nonverbal components in maximizing the effectiveness of our speech.If our words carry greater import when the nonverbal parts of speech are utilized in communication between adults, then certainly this is true when we speak to our children.I never thought that my mom would meet someone else that she feels extremely passionate towards other than my Dad.I’m happy for my mom, because the man that she’s with is a widower, his wife died 1 year ago, and they’re very happy.