Expect dating single father
About 3 weeks ago I started dating a man that I knew since 4th grade. He has full custody and has help from his live in sister and nephew. About 3 weeks ago he contacted me telling me that he admired me and that he wants me.
He asked me out on a date and told me whenever I'm free I can set the date. We talk to each other daily mostly by text which is fine and it's usually briefly asking how our days are going, good morning etc.
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Sorry if it's long as well but I want to be detailed as possible. He tried to pursue me about 3 years ago but I was already in a relationship during those years so we kept in touch here and there thru social networks. Her mother became very ill after birth to the point where she was placed in a nursing home, they were never married.
We went from dating other people to monogamous pretty much from the first date; the other milestones are well behind that “natural timeline.” It occurs to me that I should have one of these talks with my SO not because I’m excited to get married again but because I know he’s open to the idea and I should probably be careful that I’m not stringing him along.
I have learned so much about what it means to be in a giving relationship in these four months, and he has been such a remarkable teacher of that. I think it’s always instructive for women to hear from other women that, despite all the frustrations you’ve had with dating and relationships prior to today, you don’t believe that “men” are the problem, and that, in fact, in this one instance, your boyfriend’s ex-wife was the weak link.
But, I want more at this point, and I don’t know if it’s a simple case of needing to be more patient to let things grow organically…if I just need to see things as they are and say that my needs aren’t being met and re-evaluate. This is far more common than we see here – specifically because most of the questions I post are from women complaining about men.
In short, men who like fantasy football talk about fantasy football. The big thing is to know that you’re in a long-term relationship with someone who also sees the end game as marriage. Single parents – with jobs, multiple kids, shared custody and unreliable exes – are often doing the best that they can…but that does not mean that their best is good enough for you. It’s not anything deeper than “what do you want for dinner? ” If he says yes, then go to the follow-up: “I appreciate the demands on your schedule, but I love you and would love to know how to get more quality time with you.
And men (and women) who want to get married generally talk about getting married. I think these relationships work best when two individuals have supportive exes and can coordinate their weeks/weekends/schedules to see each other frequently. I know you make the best effort you can via text, I know you don’t want to integrate me with your child, however it’s hard to feel like our relationship is escalating when we only see each other once a week. ” It may be a tough question, but you’re not attacking him or making him wrong.